Rating: 4.5 out of 5
Do you feel a need to “have it all?”
Do you feel older for the first time in your life?
Are you stressed out by choices that seemingly will affect the rest of your life?
If you answered “OMG yes!” to these questions, according to Christine Hassler, you might be suffering from a new psychological trend called “the quarter-life crisis.”
At 25, Hassler ditched her lucrative job as a Hollywood agent because the stress and lack of fulfillment were making her crazy. Then when her next job and engagement to her fiance fell apart, she found herself on the verge of a nervous breakdown.
But instead of throwing in the towel, she decided to help other 20-somethings through their struggles by becoming a life coach. 20 Something, 20 Everything (which she published in 2005 at 28) caters to young women, while her second book The 20-Something Manifesto (2008) is gender-universal.
And although the book is a bit outdated, considering that Hassler’s new boyfriend which she gushes about goes from being her husband to her ex-husband in a few short years, she still effectively addresses the anxieties of Generation Me.
If you prefer self-help with structure and well-thought-out guidelines, Hassler is for you. Her whole coaching strategy revolves around three questions: Who am I? What do I want? How do I get what I want?
She takes a basic foundation and examines the nuances behind these questions. The book provides 69 exercises to confront your preconceived notions of success, the societal pressures you experience, and the changes you can make to achieve a more balanced, rewarding life.
Through the chapters addressing love, work, and independence, she sprinkles words of wisdom from older women she interviewed to further demonstrate that what you’re feeling is normal and that you are not alone.
While it’s interesting to read statistics of living as a Millennial in books such as Twenge’s Generation Me, it’s also nice to look at the emotional issues as well. A lot of self-improvement texts are full of hot air, but 20 Something, 20 Everything has so much substance that you walk away knowing that you got your money’s worth. Why spend thousands of dollars working with Hassler personally when her book is therapy enough?
And the best part? Her advice applies to everyone! Male, female, gay, straight, rich, poor–everyone has felt lost and overwhelmed at times. You can go through a “crisis” at any age, especially when you’re dealing with unresolved issues or trying to live by anyone’s standards but your own.
If you’d like to experience Hassler’s advice for free, I encourage you to follow her on Twitter. Although she takes a more spiritual approach to life coaching, most of her sentiments appeal to a wide audience.
So what do you think? In what ways could your life use a little boost?